Thursday, September 20, 2007

One Month From Today...

I will become Mrs. DSD. The planning is going well, although not without a few of the hiccups that have to be expected. The food is planned, the tent is reserved and the booze is bought. The RSVPs are coming in, although not many in the last week. The deadline is not until 29 Sept, but shouldn't most people know if they are coming by now?

We have lost several guests to the Miami @ FSU game. Most of them I completely understand. One lady at work has season tickets and goes with her daughter, son-in-law and grandchildren to every game. Another friend does not miss a game. I have an uncle, however, who has not attended a game since 2004 or before and he has decided he MUST attend this one. I am not going to forgive him easily. Frankly, I could not care less if he is there or not, but he is married to my favorite aunt on my mom's side and she is blind. She really can not get herself there. Plus he convinced her that she should not come with my parents because she is just too much work. I think it is all going to work out, but he has caused a lot of heartache for her, me and my mom in the last month or so.

I mentioned a couple of months ago that I could not decide to change my name or not after the marriage. Now that I am grown I realize how ridiculous it is to expect a woman to change her name ever, but the fact that I did not take back my birth name at the time of my divorce has made me realize that I will feel bad if I don't change my name to DSD's. My son's big objection was those stupid forms that the kids come home with every year from the school to update information. He said, "I was always proud that even though you and dad were divorced, we all had the same last name. Mmmmm, thanks sweetie, but you are in college now. We don't have to fill those forms out anymore. He seems to be fine with it then. Silly boy.

DSD did not push. While he mentioned that he would be proud if I "left the darkside", he left the decision up to me. (It is the best way to deal with me ALWAYS, he is not a stupid man.) So I have decided to change my name. * I will be Mrs. DSD. Isn't that sweet?

*But if he goes first, I am taking back my birth name and never changing it again.


The Double-U Show said...

I think you're fine either way you go. My wife actually hyphenated her name and a lot of the more traditional people I know asked "are you okay with that?" i always told them, it was my last name, why should she have to take it? they seemed to understand that logic.

LeftLeaningLady said...

Through all this my son has learned that there is no reason for whomever he marries to take his last name. Silly tradition.

Thanks for stopping by!

Shel said...

Sorry to hear your uncle is being a pain. Family has a way of being that way at times.

I wholeheartedly agree with you on the RSVP thing. When my brother got married two years ago, I was surprised at the number of people who didn't respond at all. Apparently common courtesy isn't all that common anymore.

LeftLeaningLady said...

One of the things that SERIOUSLY makes me angry is that my grandmother was overheard mentioning that she had not received a Thank you note from my son for his graduation present. He was WRONG, because the Thank you note was late (graduated in May, Thank you notes completed in August), but can you believe that my grandmother has not bothered to return her RSVP card for the wedding? And it already has a stamp on it! A check mark and a name is all it takes.